Seeking Not Sinking





Grief. If you haven’t experienced it yet, just keep living. Although grief is usually associated with the death of a loved one, oftentimes losing something of significant value, such as a relationship, a dream or a job, can elicit similar feelings of loss. The negative effects that unemployment can have on a person’s health and well-being have been examined by researchers for nearly a century. Because so many Americans look to their careers to find a sense of meaning and purpose in life, not having a job can lead one down a dark path of insecurity, depression, and even suicide. However, if you are among the 21 million people who are unemployed right now, that does not have to be your narrative!


When we base our self-worth on values, finding meaning in life no longer feels elusive and keeping our self-esteem intact becomes attainable. Unlike people, positions, and prizes, values are here to stay. Not only do our values transfer to the lives we touch, values also guide us to the best decisions, and keep us grounded during the stormiest of seasons.


As you apply for new job opportunities, additionally use this time for personal development by setting aside time to determine your core values. Most core value exercises provide a list of nouns and adjectives to select from based on how you feel about a particular word. However, the most effective way to discover your core values is through mindful self-reflection. When we base our core values on personal convictions instead of feelings, we are able to better remember these powerful words and use them to live each day with purpose. To help you start this process, we have created


7 Core Questions To Discovering Your Core Values:


  1. What are the strengths and weaknesses of the household you were raised in? - Regardless of your last name, all families have flaws. Without being biased or critical, think of both the positive and negative character traits that define those who raised you. For each weakness, find a value that describes the opposite characteristic (i.e. contentment instead of greed).

  2. What lessons have you learned from your failures? - When loss is perceived with a growth mindset, the wisdom acquired is always greater. Reflect on the mistakes and wrong choices you have made and what those errors taught you about life.

  3. What are the moral beliefs you live by? - Some establish their moral beliefs in their faith others solely rely on their conscience to be their guide. How does your moral compass direct you to treat others, conduct business, or respond to social ills?

  4. What legacy do you desire to pass down to the next generation? - Think of your son, daughter, niece, nephew, brother or sister. If you could give them a single quality to build their lives upon, what would it be?

  5. What attributes must you embody to manifest your dreams? - The process of transforming dreams into goals and goals into reality requires specific mental and emotional tools. Which ones do you need?

  6. What have you learned from your role models and/or mentors (non-family)? - No one achieves greatness alone. How have others sharpened you and inspired you to be better?

  7. What do you wish the world had more of? - What void is in the world that you could dedicate your time, energy, and talents towards filling? History has shown us the power of one, and you can be that person today.



People who live value-driven lives are always happier, because their decisions, commitments, and pursuits are grounded in a deeper cause that reflects their true passions.


The beautiful thing about your core values is that they are not defined or confined by your employment status. You can enjoy a life that honors your values even while you wait! For more information on how to use your core values to remain encouraged while unemployed, click here for a free Resource Guide. Until next time, Face It Until You Make It! -- Felicia 😊


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